A question for you! How long do you do foreplay, naturally? You can share in the comments, shamelessly. Five minutes? Fifteen minutes? Forty-five minutes?
In this article, we will address the gentlemen on behalf of the ladies. If you want to be a good lover and to make your lover happy, do a good, long foreplay. According to tantra, foreplay is necessary and needed.
A Life-Changing Challenge
Foreplay is not needed only for your lover to open her up, but also for you as a man. It helps you to move from the sexual tendencies, from the downward, instinctual way of being intimate with your beloved, to a more uplifting and sublime way, if you extend the time of foreplay.
The best way is to try it. Next time, when making love, do one hour of foreplay and write down how it was before penetration. This could be a life-changing experience. The man will do it in order to be ready, to have his energetic structure and his consciousness embracing his beloved and prepared for actual erotic practice.
Contemplate how it feels for you as a Man when you Give Pleasure
Contemplate how you feel when you give pleasure. What is fulfilling to you when you offer pleasure? It is extremely fulfilling for a man and his soul to give pleasure selflessly to a woman that he loves. The FOREPLAY is an extremely important revelation within erotic practices.
Don’t do it as a duty! ENJOY!
One of the biggest mistakes is to do it as homework that you got from your teacher, as a duty. You saw a YouTube video, or read an article, and then you start lovemaking and you do it as a duty.
Men need to be open to enjoy the giving of pleasure. Focus on the woman, focus on what she is expressing, how she wants to be touched, kissed and so on. This is extremely fulfilling for the man or the tantric practitioner.
Be Generous
Don’t be stingy. You don’t give anything from yourself; you just allow the Universe to manifest through you to give the pleasure that the lady really needs and deserves in that moment. You can transfigure in this way the act of foreplay, of just becoming a channel of offering all the beauty, all the love, all the pleasure, all the elevated erotic feelings you feel for your beloved.
Be Creative and Be Curious
What do you do for 45 minutes during foreplay? You connect, you discover. We could give all kinds of practical instructions: Lick like that, touch like that, but it can work one day and the next day, not at all. The recommendation is to be creative and curious.
It’s important to be creative in the way you express yourself and you express your love toward your beloved. If you share with your lover that you want to kiss her in a certain way and then actually do it, something magical appears.
Be curious about both what is going on with your lover, but also what is going on inside. The man during lovemaking and in foreplay should be continuously alchemising himself.
Connect, Take in your Inner Energies, and Love
Through alchemy, lower tendencies are continuously becoming seen by awareness. It is a continuous flow of energy moving upwards. A man needs to be simultaneously aware of what is going on in his inner universe and the inner universe of his beloved.
Foreplay is perfect for this because it is much less intense for the man since the lingam is not involved. It is much easier to expand awareness, to feel yourself, and to feel your lover, to see how she is doing. For 45 minutes, you connect, you take in your lover, you take in your inner energies, and you love each other.
This article was transcribed and edited by Zita from the following video:
